Looking for Love? Love yourself first and know your self worth

Looking for Love? Love yourself first and know your self worth.

 

I am glad I loved myself first and found myself. This helped me in choosing who to date, who to befriend and who to settle down with. 

 

Know that, an empty jug cannot fill a cup. 

You can’t give what you don’t have. Before you decide to love another, ask yourself, do I love myself? You need to love yourself and know your worth/value before you decide to love another.

 

How do you love yourself and know yourself worth? You can do that through the three points below:

 

Self-Reflection 

Reflect on yourself by asking yourself questions such as

Who am I?

What do I like about myself? And why do I like these things about myself?

What don’t I like about myself and why?

What are my temperaments?

What makes me happy?

Is my happiness and value dependent on another person?

What makes me sad?

What do I do when I get angry or mad?

How do I get over gloomy and sad days?

Do I want to have children? Why or why not?

Is marriage my thing or a societal requirement?

Am I content?

What are my triggers?

Am I dealing with childhood trauma?

During this phase, get to know yourself and who you are.

If you find out that, 

You are not confident

You are insecure

Have childhood trauma

Or you don’t know how to be happy by yourself.

Then you need to seek support, go to therapy and talk to a professional before it turns into depression or anxiety.

Know what your boundaries are and set them.

Also, know what your principles are.

Set your dealbreakers for relationships and friendship. Do all these in your self-reflection phase.

 
Self-Love

Now that you have reflected and got to know yourself better, you need to love yourself. Love everything about YOU because you are all that YOU have. 

Love all your perfections and imperfections. You need to know what love is, to be able to give love.

Some ways you can love yourself:

Motivate yourself.

Say good and lovely things to yourself.

Celebrate your achievements and wins.

Whenever you dress up, tell yourself you are beautiful, handsome etc

Pamper yourself.

Take yourself out.

In short, do things that make you happy and make it a point to love YOU.

When you love yourself, it does a few things:

You are able to know when someone is not loving you right 

You are able to show someone how to love you

You know how to love someone

You are able to walk out of a loveless and abusive relationship because when you love yourself, you don't hurt yourself.

Additionally, learn to love your own company and do not make your happiness dependent on other people.

In doing a self-reflection, you might come across what makes you happy or what you love to do during your "me-time". 

Work on those and cherish your own company.

Self-Worth and Value 

Always, always know that you are worthy and you are valuable.

Your self worth and value can stem from when you love yourself. Humans naturally value things they love. Take a minute and look around your room, or the possessions you have. Which one do you love or have a strong attachment to? How do you take care of that possession?

Exactly! When you learn to love yourself, you realize your value.

Knowing yourself worth will help you with your  confidence. People that know their self-worth and value naturally exude confidence.

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They don’t focus on what people think about them because they know who they are.  They are able to recognize abusive relationships and walk out.

 In job settings, people who know their value are able to negotiate better. 

 

I want you to know yourself, love your self and value yourself because you are truly valuable.

 

And until next time, know that 

You are enough, you are worthy!

Learn to Live life in the present 

And know that nothing last forever so everything will be fine! 

Take care of YOU, YOU have all you got!