Your children should be your friends

 

Your Children should be your Friends 

 

One of the best things I appreciate about my mum is, she made her children her friends and she was present in our lives.

 

My mum till now, knows all my friends by names. Whenever we speak, she asks about my friends and she prays for them.

 

My mum was a teacher/educator/principal and so whenever we were on vacation, she was on vacation and she was with us.

 

We never went on holidays to visit family friends by ourselves. There were no sleepovers without my mum. At a point, I thought she was being too protective but after having children of my own, I totally understand her. She has three girls and as an educator she knew the world was crazy for child(ren) especially girls, so she was always there.

I am so glad my mum was my friend because I remember, she never doubted me when I told her some boys tried to molest me. She stood up for me, went to their homes and gave them and their parents the warning of their lives.

 

People always made fun of my mum because she would not let her children play outside when she was inside working or cooking. 

 

It doesn’t mean, I wouldn’t have turned out worse.  I could have turned out worse, but I probably didn’t turn out bad because I was able to run everything with my mum. And she advised and guided me. I probably might not have married my husband if it wasn’t for my mum, that is a story for another day.

 

I have heard people say, your children are not your friends, they are your children. What does that even mean? 

 

They argue that if you make your children your friends, they will not respect you. My opinion is, even in friendship there are boundaries. So yes, make your children your friends but there should be boundaries.  Be a parent and a friend to your child(ren)!

 

Benefits of making your child(ren) your friends 

You get to know what’s going in their lives because they will tell you.

You are able to continue to guide them to make the right and informed decisions.

You are able to have fun and make memories with them

You are able to save them from dangerous situations 

They know that they have a friend in you no matter what.

 

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And until next time, know that 

You are enough, you are worthy!

Learn to Live life in the present 

And know that nothing last forever so everything will be fine! 

Take care of YOU, YOU are all you've got!