WHY IS SEX A CHORE FOR MOST MARRIED WOMEN
WHY IS SEX A CHORE FOR MOST MARRIED WOMEN
Hello,
Welcome to my world. I hope you are well? Today let's talk about the hush hush topic, "why is sex a chore for most married women?".
Gender Socialization
Firstly, I believe it is rooted in how some women are raised and socialized. Women are raised to not like sex with statements such as,
"Do not let a man touch you or else you will get pregnant"
"Girls play with girls and boys play with boys".
Then when it is time for women to get married, they are told
"Give your husband sex all the time"
"Give your husband sex when he wants it"
"If you don't give your husband sex, he will go out for it"
"Don't ever withhold sex from your husband"
With the above statements, women are raised to think sex is not meant for women and they are things that you do to pleasure your partner.
I believe this is why women tend to see sex and lovemaking as a duty or a chore.
Lack of Safe Sex Education
Secondly, as explained above, some of the things women hear growing up does not offer them proper knowledge about sex.
What some women are told is, "do not let a man touch you or else you will get pregnant". And that is just about that. There is no education about how pleasurable sex is and how women can orgasm multiples times during one round.
There is nothing around that, just simply do not talk to a man or let them touch you.
Therefore, some women are growing up without proper education about the difference between sex and love making, what constitute sexual abuse in marriage, what pleasurable sex entails and what safe sex is.
Lack of safe sex education is a cause for teenage pregnancy and the reason for increase in sexually transmitted diseases.
Lack of safe sex education will make sex look like a duty and a chore.
Gender Roles
In most homes, women go to work and still do most of the house work which includes, taking care of the children, cooking, washing the dishes, laundry, cleaning the rooms, cleaning the washroom etc.
The men tend to go to work as well and just come home and wait to be served.
As a result, when everything is said and done, the women are tired from going to work and taking care of the home that they are not feeling and interested to have sex.
Unbalanced gender roles thus makes sex become a chore for women.
If you want your partner to not to see sex as a chore, help them around the home.
Lack of Sex Drive
Simply, lack of sex drive. Some women may have low libido and may not always be in the mood to have sex and that is just that.
Religion/Christianity
From a religious/christianity perspective, women are raised to be virgins. Women are told to keep themselves for their husbands. I believe this also makes some women think that their body and sex is just for their husband and that it is a duty of theirs to give that to their husband. This is one of the reasons why women may perceive sex as a a chore.
As a christian myself, I want to let women know that the clitoris is the the only part of the human anatomy that God created for pleasure. So, God wanted women to enjoy sex. Take this to the bank and go and enjoy sex and do not see it as a duty.
What other things will you add? What do you think are some of the reasons why some women see sex as a duty? Please leave it in the comments.
And until next time, know that
You are enough, you are worthy!
Learn to Live life in the present
And know that nothing last forever so everything will be fine!
Take care of YOU, YOU have all you got!
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