This and That with DrAnimwaa

  WHY IS SEX A CHORE FOR MOST MARRIED WOMEN Hello, Welcome to my world. I hope you are well? Today let's talk about the hush hush topic, " why is sex a chore for most married women ?". Gender Socialization Firstly, I believe it is rooted in how some women are raised and socialized. Women are raised to not like sex with statements such as,  "Do not let a man touch you or else you will get pregnant" "Girls play with girls and boys play with boys". Then when it is time for women to get married, they are told  "Give your husband sex all the time" "Give your husband sex when he wants it" " If you don't give your husband sex, he will go out for it " "Don't ever withhold sex from your husband" With the above statements, women are raised to think sex is not meant for women and they are things that you do to pleasure your partner. I believe this is why women tend to see sex and lovemaking as a duty or a chore. Lac...

 FEELING LIKE A FAILURE IN YOUR 30s?| HOW TO OVERCOME IT Hello, Welcome to my world. Today let's talk about the feeling of failure, underachieved, worthless and hopeless when you are approaching the age of 30. Interestingly, when you hear people say they are approaching 30 and they have failed, it is usually because they are unmarried and have no children yet. My questions are, who determined that 30 is the goal or the age of achievement? Why are you putting pressure on yourself because of a mark someone else has set? My guess is, it is probably someone that sat down one day and said, if you are unmarried and you have no children, then you have failed. Then people just run with it. I feel like there is so much pressure on people to achieve so many things by the age of 30, when they have not been set up financially or adequately to succeed. The statement that, "breakfast is the most important meal of the day" is a slogan that a company came up with to s...

  UNPOPULAR OPINIONS ABOUT MARRIAGE Hello, I hope you are well? Welcome to my world. Today let's talk about  some unpopular opinions about marriage. In my opinion, marriage is not a scam. Marriage is a scam only if it is used to oppress, dominate and devalue another human being. Marriage is enjoyable and so if you are interested in getting married, please do not be discouraged by the negative news and stories. Take your time, study your partner and pray before you go into it. But as you get ready to marry or even for the married ones, let me share with you some unpopular opinions about marriage. Opposite Poles do not Attract I am sorry to disappoint you, but I do not think in marriage o pposite poles do not attract.  Opposite poles may attract in physics but not in  marriage. I will explain, I have heard many people said if you are a quiet person then you should marry a loud person because the two goes well. Based on that, people have gotten married and are stru...

9 THINGS TO DO WHEN YOU ARE OVERWHELMED OR STRESSED: CHRISTIAN PERSPECTIVE Hello, Welcome to my world, I hope you are doing well? So we know as humans, we are not always happy. There are ups and downs in life, sometimes we are up and some times we are down. And sometimes we are truly overwhelmed! When I am overwhelmed, these are some things I do to calm down and keep sane.  Praising/Worshipping As a christian, I praise. I listen to gospel songs and just soak myself in his presence. I thank him for what he is about to do. Praising helps me calm down. Try it! Some current songs on my list include  darling Jesus , Yah , Kadosh , Aseda and etc. Psalm 42:5-6 5  5  5 Why, my soul, are you downcast?      Why so disturbed within me? Put your hope in God,      for I will yet praise him,      my Savior and my God. 6  My soul is downcast within me;      therefore I will remember...

THINGS I AM GOING TO DO TO LOSE AND MAINTAIN WEIGHT|DURABLE LIFESTYLE| PERSONAL EXPERIENCE Hello, I am hope you are well? So let's talk about weight loss, I have tried to lose weight twice and I have been successful. Two things helped me: exercising and dieting. My biggest issue has been how to maintain the weight when I lose it. Recently, I joined a group that support durable lifestyle changes and I liked it. The goal was to find something you can incorporate in your daily activities. When I joined the group, I tried and I was able to lose weight from 97 kg to 95kg. Yesterday, I was at my doctor's office and I realized I was still at 95kg but I have been advised to lose the weight. This is because I work corporate and I am always sitting at my desk. Plus my hobbies include sitting and not being active and so I need to be intentional about losing weight and being active. Thus, these are the ways I am planning to create sustainable and durable life...

UNPOPULAR TOPICS TO DISCUSS ON A FIRST DATE Hello, I hope you are well? I have a lot of unpopular opinions. If you are looking for the norm or what maintains the status quo then you are in the wrong place. Today, I will share with you my unpopular opinions about topics to discuss on the first date. Usually, people talk about superficial and basic things on a first date but I beg to differ that we need to have the deep conversation on the first date. This will determine if the person deserves another date or is worth your time. If you are dating with intent or you are looking for a serious relationship then it is important that you ask the deep and serious questions on the first date. So what are these deep questions or serious topic you should explore? Medicals/Health Talk about medicals/health. I know someone that says the first question they ask their date is, "I am AS, what is your genotype?". This person asks this question of the bat because they do not want to fall in l...

  Take Life Easy: 7 Easy Ways I am taking life more easy now a days and I am at so much peace! Well… what will I gain if I don’t take it easy  🤣😂 , none of us is getting out of life, alive. Right? So you might as well enjoy it and take it a day at a time. I stopped being entitled I stopped overthinking I save but enjoy if I have to 😉 I mind my business and drink water I do things I have always wanted to do- like creating content, starting a blog, starting a YouTube channel. I love hard- “ I’m gonna lose lose you “by Meghan Trainor is my go to song to love. My friends know I constantly show my appreciation to them and let them know I love them. I won’t wait till they are no more to give them their flowers. I don’t force things — not relationships and not even a ponytail. One time, I woke up and I couldn’t put my hair in a pony tail. I texted my husband and asked for the details of the barber. I went there and cut my hair. I cannot be bothered. Live life and choose you always...

  Physical Abuse is not the only Abuse: Types of Abuse   For many of us, when we hear the word, abuse, we think of physical abuse. There are several other abuses that occur which is detrimental to the victim.  Stop telling your friends and people to stay in abusive homes because their partner is not beating them. All abuse whether seen or unseen are damaging. Abuse can happen in intimate relationships, amongst acquaintances, at the workplaces, within families and almost any and everywhere.  Abuse is a means of control. An abuser controls the victim through their actions and inactions and take their power and agency from them.  A victim can experience more than one type of abuse. Some types of abuses are connected to each other. For example, verbal abuse can cause emotional abuse which can in turn cause mental abuse. Thus, a victim experiencing verbal abuse may also be experiencing emotional and mental abuse. Most victims make excuses for their abusive partner an...