This and That with DrAnimwaa

10  Traits of a Toxic Workplace   Micromanaging Lack of Psychological Safety / a Culture of Silence High Turnover   No Acknowledgment of Employees   Policies are changed constantly to suit leadership only  or support the toxic work culture No worklife balance   Feedback is not collected or worked on No career growth   Gossips Employees are undervalued and their thoughts are not appreciated   What to do when you find yourself in a toxic workplace Fight   You can decide to fight the system by standing up against the perpetrators.  This usually from experience and from stories that people have shared, does not always end well. You cannot fight the system unless the system is ready to change.  Usually, the perpetrators are in bed with the HR or have been there for a while and so they always win. But you can try to find with evidence.   If you decide to fight, documentation and paper trail will be vital. Document every little thing ...

 5 Things that make me stay grounded in my faith Today, I share some of my beliefs and responses to what people say about my faith. Maybe, you have been asked a couple. Leave your comment if you use any of these or if you have any other responses you use. 1. Them: The bible is made up of stories. Me: You always get encouraged and motivated by people’s stories and apply it to your life. This could be people that you have never met, but their stories inspire and encourage you. So, let the bible be made up of just stories, it’s okay because I chose to be inspired by them. Everyone has a choice to choose what will inspire them.     2. Them: You took after the God of your colonizers. Christianity was forced unto Africans by their colonizers.  Me: Ethiopia was not colonized but they are Christians and a very religious country. What is your argument again? 3. Them: God is not real. Me: I will rather believe that God is real and die to know that there is no God. Than to beli...

  Pray/ Proclaim and speak good things into your Children’s lives   I remember I was little, about 5 or 6 years, when I heard my mum praying for her children’s marriages. I was surprised to hear her pray for my future husband, because I was quite small and I said in my head “I have more years ahead of me, can’t this woman wait till I am 18 years to say this prayer?”.   Well, I asked her later why she was praying for my future spouse. She said something along the lines, “I am breaking generational curse and securing a happy future for you and your sisters. It will all make sense when you grow up”. It all makes sense. I am glad for those prayers that my mum said.   When I had my first child, an older woman reached out and told me,    “The best gift you can give your children is to pray and proclaim into their lives. When we were young, we didn’t know this principle and so we focused on chasing money. We thought having money will help their future but from exp...

  How to demonstrate the Christlike love: Give to the needy    Quiet time (notes taken on 23/01/2018)   Introduction Today, let’s talk about how we can love like Christ did.   Prayer: Father, help us to be able to love like you do. Teach us not to be judgemental and help us show love to those who need it. Amen.   Bible Passage 1 John 3:16 – 24   How did Christ demonstrate his love for us?   16  This is how we know what  love   is: Jesus Christ  laid down   his  lif e  for  us .  And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers and sisters.    We can’t do the above, so then, how can we also demonstrate love? The verse 17 below shows us how we can do that.   17  If  anyone  has  material possessions  and  sees a brother or sister in need  but has  no pity  on them, how can the  love of God be in that person ?    Thus, the b...

Looking for Love? Love yourself first and know your self worth.   I am glad I loved myself first and found myself. This helped me in choosing who to date, who to befriend and who to settle down with.    Know that, an empty jug cannot fill a cup.  You can’t give what you don’t have. Before you decide to love another, ask yourself, do I love myself? You need to love yourself and know your worth/value before you decide to love another.   How do you love yourself and know yourself worth? You can do that through the three points below:   Self-Reflection  Reflect on yourself by asking yourself questions such as Who am I? What do I like about myself? And why do I like these things about myself? What don’t I like about myself and why? What are my temperaments? What makes me happy? Is my happiness and value dependent on another person? What makes me sad? What do I do when I get angry or mad? How do I get over gloomy and sad days? Do I want to have children? Why...

Religious Manipulation Introduction This can happen when pastors or leaders of religious organizations use religion, christianity and the name of God to manipulate its member to be loyal to them or to scam them of their money and resources.  It is very subtle and one might not notice it happening. I would know because I almost fell a victim to it.   Three things that can help you not to fall a victim to Spiritual Manipulation Stay in in tune with the holy spirit through  1.       reading the word of God  2.       praying          fasting        worshiping and praising Based on my experience, these are some ways spiritual manipulation can happen in churches/christianity: Constant Teaching on Giving The leader constantly teaches about giving. It is usually focused on giving to the church and the pastor and less about giving to the needy, orphans and the fatherless.  Matt...

5 Reality Shows you should check out on Netflix   I am a reality tv fanatic and I love watching reality tv. If you are like me or if you want something to binge watch on Netflix, then check these out:   The Circle It is a reality competition show where contestants create a virtual profile to interact with each other through a medium called the circle. Participants can decide to be someone else (catfish) or  themselves. Participants are supposed to build connections and the most popular person wins the money.   The Mole  It’s a reality tv game show that brings people together to undertake mental and physical challenges which will earn them money. There is a mole planted amongst them to sabotage the challenges so they earn less money. The other players have no idea who the mole is and, they need to take a test to figure out who the mole is after every challenge. The money earned through the challenges, is won by the person who is able to figure out who the mole is...